These 10 habits can kill your sex drive and you probably don't know you're doing them
There comes a time when you and your partner have been together for a while, and it seems like forever since you last had sex. While you might say, "oh, it's because the honeymoon period is over", might I remind you that many people say they actually have better sex after the honeymoon phase. So the reason your libido might be feeling low is probably thanks to something else.
Of course, it all comes down to the relationship you have with your partner, and how you're feeling about yourself at that present moment too. If you're feeling particularly self-conscious one day or are feeling down because your favourite celebrity couple split up (damn you Chris Pratt and Anna Faris), your sex-drive will naturally take a hit too.
And other than that, there are a number of lifestyle habits you may be surprised to hear also affect how much you're in the mood. Are you guilty of any of them? Take a look and see.
1. You don't get enough sleep
Experts say if you've got irregular sleep patterns, and even if you get a solid six hours a night, both men and women are at risk of having lower levels of testosterone, AKA, the sex drive hormone. Most adults need at least seven hours of sleep consistently each night, and it can make all the difference.
This bad habit not only interrupts your sleep but also your partner's, which isn't good for your sex-drive (see the point above).
3. Eating too much red meat
An excessive amount of steak/burgers/bolognese could clog your arteries and decrease your blood flow. Having well-circulated blood is important for you to feel stimulated in your most sensitive parts, so you may experience... "performance" issues.
4. Getting drunk
Heading to the bedroom after one or two glasses of wine can add a bit of fun, but any more than that and you'll be reducing sensitivity and making it harder to reach a climax as a result.
5. Leaving the window open
If you still haven't gotten your drafty window fixed or keep leaving it open, it could be affecting you and your partner sexually. Studies show that having cold feet, literally, makes it twice as difficult to orgasm.
6. Taking anti-depressants
Some medications, such as the SSRI family of depression meds, and some high blood pressure ones, can impact your sex-drive negatively because of how it affects the central nervous system.
7. Being on your phone all the time
If you and your partner tend to spend a lot of time lying in bed or sitting on the couch scrolling through Instagram or looking at a laptop, neither of you will really be thinking about sex. You're not on each other's minds and are instead distracted by the cute dogs or grumpy emails from your landlord – definitely not anything to get you in the mood.
8. Your lengthy weekend bike rides
Racing-style bikes and the way you sit on them (in that forward-leaning position) can unfortunately impact your sex drive. Oddly enough, it can actually lead to a loss of feeling in the genitals, so maybe opt for an upright "granny" bike instead.
9. That fight from three weeks ago
If your head isn't "in the game" – maybe because of a fight you had a few weeks ago or the fact that you caught him flirting a bit too much with a co-worker – you're subconsciously not going to feel passionate about your partner. Holding a grudge and trying to brush arguments under the carpet by saying "it's fine" when it's really not isn't helping anyone.
10. A packed schedule
The stress from being go-go-go all the time takes its toll. If you feel constantly under pressure from work, family obligations and going to the gym often enough to make the monthly membership fee worth it, your body’s hormone balance will be out of whack. Calm down, stress less and don't put too much on your plate, and you'll be in the mood again in no time.
Well, do you need to change any lifestyle habits? You and your partner might be very thankful indeed if you do...