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Man whose girlfriend lets him breastfeed from other women reveals moment things turned sour
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It has been a few years since Chris Dierickx, 48, first snuck away from his stable relationship and the home they share to meet a woman he didn’t know to drink her breastmilk.
He found himself lying across a stranger's lap, drinking from her breasts while her husband observed the intimate moment.
Dierickx had met the couple online after he saw an advert on Facebook posted by a man offering up his wife’s breasts without a fee.
Once he had finished feeding, things turned slightly sour as the couple demanded a different kind of payment. He was forced to sit and watch as the man had sex with his wife.
Although he was coerced into fulfilling a couple’s undisclosed sexual fantasy, Dierickx enjoyed the experience, but it put him off contacting the couple again.
Dierickx told VT: “In between sucking I did get an erection but I was mostly interested in the breastfeeding feeling and also the taste of the milk.
“Breastmilk is a bit thicker and sweeter than cow's milk. It was nice.”
Dierickx has been searching for a nursing relationship for around 20 years, despite having been in a committed relationship for eight years.
An adult nursing relationship, or ANR as it is known to the community, is a relationship in which one partner breastfeeds the other.
While it might raise a few eyebrows or remind you of the jaw-dropping scene in the latest series of ‘The Boys’ in which Firecracker induced lactation to breastfeed Homelander, for most participants, this unusual fetish is rooted in maternal trauma.
An ANR doesn’t necessarily have to involve milk; the act itself is more about comfort, closeness, and connection, a form of non sexual intimacy that replicates feeding a baby.
However, it is considered a sexual fetish as some people find it erotic, and it often leads to further sexual exploration.
What does his girlfriend think about kink?
Unfortunately Dierickx’s girlfriend shows no interest in ANR - although she is aware of his kink, she considers it “strange” and “weird”.
He has tried to open the conversation with her, but claims: “It’s a bit difficult to talk about with my girlfriend,” as she is not interested in or aroused by feeding and, when he has tried to initiate nipple play, simply turns away.
While she is aware of her partner’s unusual fetish, she does not know that he is a part of online communities and actively seeks people to explore his desires with, but he does feel guilty about it.
“I don’t feel good doing this to her but on the other hand the desire is so extremely big that it drives me so crazy and I feel like I have no choice other than to keep looking for someone to breastfeed me,” Dierickx said.
Like hundreds of others in this community, Dierickx uses online forums and groups on Facebook and Reddit to find women who will let him drink their milk straight from the source.
On another occasion, Dierickx met a woman willing to nurse him through a Facebook group, but was, yet again, left disappointed.
Explaining the situation, Dierickx said: “Her husband had set up the meeting and it took place in a car park in the middle of winter. He sat in the front of the car while she fed me in the back.
Much to his disappointment, he was then asked to make a payment of €130 to the couple, which ruined the whole experience for him.
“If I have to pay for it I don’t get that feeling of safety and security that I am craving.
“I want the woman to nurse me because she likes to be nursed, then it's about feeling each other and not because of money,” Dierickx said.
Dierickx attributes his interest in breastfeeding to his traumatic relationship with his mother, who did not breastfeed him and allegedly had postpartum depression.
“The lack of motherly love I received must be why I am into older women and obsessed with breastfeeding,” he said.
Where does this unusual fetish come from?
Speaking about the connection between childhood and sexual desires, Dr Sydney Ceruto, a clinical Psychologist and CEO of MindLAB Neuroscience, said: “Connection in infancy is like a bank account - if the balance stays low, the brain adjusts its wiring to guard against risk.
“People with patchy maternal care develop nervous systems that constantly scan for disappointment even in loving relationships.
“While science supports broad links between disrupted attachment and intimacy struggles, establishing a direct correlation between early caregiving and later sexual interests, such as breastfeeding, is largely based on conjecture.
“Sex is complicated. Genetics, hormones, life experience, and even cultural scripts all stir together.”
Few people in his personal life are aware of Dierickx’s unusual fetish, as he only speaks about it online within private groups; he has still been mocked and taken advantage of.
On multiple occasions, he has been blackmailed into sending money to fake profiles pretending to be women selling milk, who then threaten to share the information and conversations he has shared privately with his girlfriend and family.
Being mocked and ostracised is a large reason that Dierickx has decided to open up about his frowned-upon fantasy.
He said: “ANR is still something not accepted in society because people think it's weird and that's a pity because it has a psychological reason behind it most of the time.
“So I think if people try to understand better then it would be easier for them to accept it and women would be less afraid to admit that they also want to have an ANR which would be good because at the moment it feels like there’s a thousand men to one woman.”